Julia’s Diary

What is happiness? Every people have different definitions of happiness. Someone feels happy after having big house, luxurious car, and expensive jewelry. Someone feels happy when he is in good family. Someone feels happy when he has already reached what he wants: He is success in career. Someone feels happy when he can buy anything he wants with so much money he has.

Actually, happiness is measured not based on material we have, but mental condition. We must appreciate what we have. We receive our self without problems. We can accept and appreciate people.

Happiness doesn’t just fall from the sky, all happiness are reached because there are causes.

There are some ways to find happiness. We pray to God that hopefully, we can receive a miracle. We will happiness if we makes a goodness. We can send happiness to parents, couple, family, and friends. We say “Happy Birthday” to friend who is celebrating birthday. We say “Happy Valentine” to our couple on Valentine Day. We say “Happy Mom’s Day” to our mother on Mother’s Day. Another way is doing hobby. What are your hobbies (Swimming, jogging, gardening, watching, drawing, dancing, etc.?). Relaxation can be a good alternative to prevent you from stress. You are listening music or do meditation. meditation is done to silent mind. (http://www.meditasi.info)

Happiness just doesn’t fall from the sky, but whatever happiness happen because certainly there is a cause. If our life always makes and does what which be the cause from happiness; so I believe in this life certainly, it will grow happiness and only happiness.

Our life is meaningful. A sociable person is easy to communicate with others. He always shares experience to friends that can add a friendship. He solves problems easily. He is not desperate to try.

We are lucky because we are the cleverest between others’ creatures. We have ability to process and enjoy natural resources which are given by God.

Be smile!

BE HAPPY!

How is your life? Do you have everything you want (house, car, money, etc.)? If you don’t, do you know the reason?

Someone with high education doesn‘t certainly become a rich people. In fact; we can’t determine success from someone’s education background. I ever read that the first graduate person becomes taxi driver or worker. In contrary, people who don’t ever sit in lecturing are success in his (her) enterprise. It can be concluded, IQ can’t determine someone’s success. EQ has important role in someone’s success. (EQ: IQ = 80: 20)

IQ (Intelligence Quotient) is an intelligence based on test, ranged from idiot – genius. IQ is permanent. Someone with high IQ always get the best mark in his (her) school. EQ is different from IQ. EQ is impermanent. EQ can be learned by all ages and still be developed. EQ puts focus on ability to know our feeling and others’ feeling, ability to motivate our self, and ability to process emotion well on our self and relationship with others. We often attend western lifestyle in which people learn education which is permanent, so we are not trained to develop our mind to attend the social environment. We are expected to be able to solve problems with more wisdom.

Emotion condition affects brain function and its work speed. Someone who is in stress can’t concentrate on his (her) work. His (her) brain doesn’t work well that he (she) can’t solve his (her) problems. Mood affects work result. A happy person can finish big works easily, but a sad person can’t finish a small work.

So, how are you? EQ is very important in our life. EQ can be learned, developed, and increased in all ages. You don’t need to be worry. Now, there are so many organizations which give trainings to know and develop EQ. The ability to learn EQ increases together with age addition. (More adult, more wisdom)

Seriousness will take a success. If we proof what we do is good, we will also receive a good result. Be a failure as a way to success! There are so many stories which we can learn. Po is success to realize his dream. He changes after his father gives him a special recipe of “mie”. Fat body isn’t a problem to be a sport man (jago kung fu). Donald Trump is more success with the failure he receives. Mario Teguh (motivator in business Art) says that someone with pressured mental will work more diligently, so he (she) reaches success. Andrie Wongso learns from bad life of his childhood. He has amazing spirit which makes him as a success businessman. He is known as the 1^st Motivator in indonesia.

“The biggest, the smartest, and the strongest are not the survivors. Rather, the survivors are the most adaptable.” This Charles Darwin’s say teaches us to develop our EQ. Someone must have good characters that he (she) can solve every problems he (she) meets, always thinks positive, has strong characters (always try), and changes life as a challenge.

OK. Good Luck!!!

Bye!

EQ IQ success

Do you ever experience self- confidence crisis (TIDAK PEDE) in facing a situation or problem? I am sure that you and every people ever experience self- confidence crisis in the life; from child to adult, moreover old-age. Loosing of confidence certainly becomes something which is very disturbing, moreover when we are faced on challenge or new situation. There are says: “Oh, I am not liked her,… who always confidence… the feeling is always there is something lack from myself… I am ashamed to be myself!?

These are some points which you can think about the differences between confidence people and uncofidence people, but you must remember not to have over confidence. Moreover, you love yourself over (narcism). The effect is not heavy, maybe crazy.

characters of Confidence Individual

Some characters of individual who has proportional confidence are:

1. Believe on competency and self- ability, so she doesn’t need praise.

2. Not push to show conformity, only to be taken by others or group.

3. Brave to receive and face others’ refusement. Brave to be herself.

4. Have good self- controlled (not moody and stabilized emotion).

5. Have internal locus of control.

6. Optimism.

characters of Uncofidence Individual

Some characters of individual who is unconfidence are:

1. Try to show conformity.

2. Keep afraid (worried) to refusement.

3. Difficult to accept self- reality and think bad to herself.

4. Pessimism, easy to value everything from negative side.

5. Afraid to fail, so avoid all risks.

6. Have external locus of control.

Negative Mindset:

1. Focus obligations to herself.

2. Totality and dualism way of thinking.

3. Futuristic pessimism.

4. Uncritize and selective to self- criticism.

5. Labeling.

6. Difficult to accept praise or positive things from others.

Positive Mindset:

1. Face problem as challenge.

2. Enjoy life.

3. Open thinking to accept suggestion and idea.

4. Loosing negative thinking soon after the thinking grows.

5. Thank with what she haves.

6. Not hear indefinite gossip

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